It's official! Absence does make the heart grow fonder. I have been away tending to some family business and haven't been able to connect with all of you; it's good to be back; I've missed my weekly connection. Thank you for your patience.
It may sound as if I'm contradicting myself but please read this to the end and allow me to present my reasoning.
Last year I posted a blog to stress the importance of NOT looking in your rear view mirror too frequently. I shared the story of how I was driving on the freeway and focused too much in the rear view mirror that I didn't see what was in front of me and I literally sped passed the Highway Patrolman and received the ticket. The point I was hoping to make was this. "If you spend so much time looking in the rear view mirror of your life, you'll miss the opportunities coming before you. Looking at the past is great for reviewing lessons; examining successes; and evaluating the objectives that weren’t achieved. It’s also great to look at the past to review fond memories and relive the joys of happy times. Avoid focusing on the past with disappointment and try not to compare the “good old days” with our lives of today. Don't focus on the past, you're not going in that direction."
Last week I had the pleasure of making a long drive down Hwy 101 from the town of McKinleyville, California to the Napa Valley. I traveled through huge redwood forests and enjoyed the incredible scenery of hills, rocky cliffs and rushing rivers. My fingertips lightly tapped on the sides of the steering-wheel as my favorite tunes bounced off the interior walls of my car. I was in driving nirvana. While on a single-lane stretch of the highway a sudden bright flash in the rear view mirror catches my eye; it's a large fire engine. Sirens are screaming with loud bursts from the horn to add to the awakening alarm My heart jumps and I quickly find a spot to safely pull over to the side of the road for them to pass. A few of the cars up ahead pull to the right as well but there are others that don't see the truck or can't hear the blast of the horn or shrill of the serine. I want to scream, "Pull over! Can't you see there is an emergency?"
I'm just as guilty as some of these drivers; I didn't hear him at first. If the flash of the lights hadn't caught my eye, I would have continued driving down the road in my own oblivion. You would be right to assume I turned down my music for the remainder of my drive. My awareness of the emergency vehicles coming up behind me was heightened and far more keen.
In a world that is moving so fast, it's easy to turn up the music and try to drown out our troubles while attempting to escape the sadness, violence and confusion. However, if we don't take time to listen to the cries from the people who need us or the cries from our own bodies calling out for attention, catastrophe is eminent. Pull over and rest. Turn down the negative voices and tune in to the voices crying for love and attention.
I'm still advocating you don't look in the rear view mirror to set your sights and goals in life, but keep your vision open and listen to all the beauty that life has to offer. Remember to take time to safely pull off the road. Take the time to rest on someones shoulder or provide yours for someone else....especially in an emergency.